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Hearing about others' experiences can be helpful when dealing with death and bereavement. Do you have a personal experience that you'd feel comfortable sharing with the campaign? If so, let us know...
Dying and death wasn't something I was that familiar with really. For me personally, my mother had been the only one I could share the topic of death with and we took for granted our loved ones would be honored when the time came. But it doesn’t necessarily happen that way, my mother wasn’t given the privilege of a church funeral nor was I able to be see her before the funeral. She lay in a mortuary alone until the viewing in the chapel.
The friction this caused me has still not resolved, however, I do understand that death and dying is not a topic for the faint hearted and that families will take the less painful route of handing the funeral arrangements to the professionals as did my family.
My mother’s funeral service did not reflect her life and her death undoubtedly became one of life’s most bitter times for me and was the also the most enlightening.
Becoming an End of Life Celebrant myself, I came to the conclusion that my bespoke ceremonies fell stiffly between the mainstream funeral directors’ strict guidelines that is so prevalent today.
With that intense painful realization and insight, it has become an emotional and personal journey for me, one I feel I can now safely navigate you through.
When the awareness of possibilities are embraced rituals such as Vigils are likely to once again become part of the way we respect and understand the true meaning of death and dying.
Why dying matters to me ? I need (we all need) to reach those in time of sadness and sorrow to share my (our) experience of how much sadder a loved ones death is if not addressed appropriately.