Teenager plans her own funeral

14 February 2011
A 17-year-old is planning her funeral and how she wants to spend her final months after learning her bone cancer is untreatable.

Donna Shaw was diagnosed with rare Ewing's Sarcoma in February 2010. Despite surgery and chemotherapy, she has been told nothing more can be done.

Donna's mother, Nikki Parker, said her daughter was planning every detail.

Ms Parker said: "She has chosen everything, her songs, she has got a video of her she wants playing at the funeral, and the colours of the flowers."

The 45-year-old, who quit her restaurant job to be Donna's carer, added: "It's actually made it easier... I know that seems silly, but because she is being as strong as she is, it does help."

Donna, of Derby, wants to be cremated in the bridesmaid dress she wore when her mother married her stepfather in 2008 and will have her favourite cuddly toy beside her. 

Male mourners will wear pink ties – Donna’s favourite colour – and her ashes will be scattered off Brighton Pier.

Ms Parker said: "She has asked six people she wants to carry her coffin – all friends and family. She has chosen everything.’"

Mrs Parker said once Donna knew her cancer was untreatable she decided she wanted to die in dignity.

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