When my mother died, although we'd all been anticipating it for many months, it still came as a huge shock. This was because we were never told that she was displaying the signs that death was imminent, and - having never watched someone die from a progressive illness before - we didn't know what those signs were. This meant that I was at work when she drew her last breath, and I have never really recovered emotionally from not being there for her. My mum was at one of the best regarded hospices in the country, but at no point was a meeting arranged with us, her family, to tell us how serious the situation was. If I had known her death was imminent (days or hours rather than weeks or months) I would have been there for her. I was just wondering if other readers have had similar experiences.