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I should have been told mum had died

14 November 2011

Sarah was nine when her mother died. Immediately shipped off to family and friends, she wasn't told what had happened until after the funeral. Now aged 50 with two adult children of her own, she talks about the life-long impact this has had on her.  

Dying and death are very personal matters and as such this is a difficult piece to write, but as I firmly believe that sharing these experiences can help others I am going to give it a go.

Soul food

19 October 2011

Soul Midwife Felicity Warner was stunned to be invited to the Women of the Year lunch, where every attendee is handpicked for their personal contribution to society. Felicity talks about the Soul Midwife network she set up that led to her invitation.

There’s a running joke in my family that I need “to get out a bit more” and also many hints that I should dress properly for work!

Fantastic support let my husband die at home

5 October 2011

After 55 years of marriage, our world was shattered when my husband, Melvin, was diagnosed with Mesothilioma.

Bolton PCT tackle death with humour

5 September 2011

Vanessa Shaw, Palliative Care Educator, Bolton PCT (aka the Bolton Blogger), on how Bolton staff used comedy to encourage dialogue about death during Dying Matters Awareness Week.

   Carmel Wiseman and Sharon France during Dying Matters week

Right person, right time, right place

1 August 2011

I was at a “Meet Macmillan” conference a few days ago. OTony and Dorothy Bonserur family has a lot to thank Macmillan for. It was a Macmillan nurse who made it possible for our son, Neil, to die in his own home, and that is why my wife, Dorothy, and I (right) are fund-raisers for Macmillan.

My husband's life ended so well, thanks to the NHS

29 June 2011
Kate with husband Bill

My husband Bill died in the Royal Bournemouth and Christchurch Hospital in August 2008.

He had been diagnosed with emphysema and fibrosis of the lungs in the autumn of the previous year, and was being treated at the Royal Brompton Hospital in London.

Award-winning writer Nell Dunn on her new play, Home Death

15 June 2011

Nell Dunn is a distinguished writer whose work includes the award-winning play Steaming, as well as several novels including Up the Junction, which was directed for TV by Ken Loach. Her latest play, Home Death, is based on moving true-life accounts of people dealing with the death of their loved ones at home. It was performed this week at the Royal Society of Medicine as part of the National Council for Palliative Care 20th anniversary and Dying Matters Awareness Week.

After my daughter's death, I realised how good her end of life care had been

5 June 2011

I remember when I was young, lying awake at night and being scared of dying. I wasn’t scared of any pain that may be involved in my death, what scared me was the thought of not being able to do all the things I wanted to, simple things at that age - not being around to play football with my friends being my biggest fear. I can’t understand the rationale behind my thinking: I was perfectly healthy and had hardly ever been to the doctors, but occasionally these dark thoughts would cross my mind.


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