In her final weeks Viv and I had some tussles or occasions she had to be nudged to accept something that was difficult.
For some time Viv had resisted changing her double bed for a hospital bed. One evening I clambered on her bed behind her so she could lean against me to sit up to eat,
In my final email to Viv’s List – this time with the subject heading simply ‘Viv’ - I let people know she had died peacefully and gave details of the funeral arrangements at the social gathering some days later to celebrate her life. I added:
While Viv was in a morphine induced coma for the final two days of her life, we continued to soothe her and I know she could hear us. Twice on that first day I asked her to give me a kiss and I saw her lips pucker in response, and other times she made her displeasure crystal clear: she did
For two years I had a contact list titled Viv’s List in my email address book: a list of extended family and friends Viv had charged me with notifying once she died. I didn’t want my first contact with this group to be so dramatic so decided to write to everyone soon after my
Towards the end of Viv’s life I asked her who she wanted me to arrange to visit or speak with by phone. She paused and answered that it was more a case of who she wanted to allow to see or speak with her. And that was the thing. By then she was content to lie quietly in
"My sister Viv's end of life plan was centred on remaining at home, followed by a do-it-yourself funeral. Many people worked together, supported by the district nurses, to make that possible."
A friend of Viv’s, Lynne, was the linchpin of Project Viv. She had
‘I believe supporting someone who is dying is the biggest gift we can give a loved one.’ These were the words of a district nurse acknowledging my role with my sister.
Viv was in the final stages of secondary breast cancer. A cancer that had embedded itself in her liver, had
One in six families are facing debt and distress after arranging a funeral. Vital government help with basic funeral costs was capped at £700 in 2003, far less than the cost of the most basic funeral.
Now campaigners, charities and funeral industry are calling on the Chancellor Philip
Murder and unexplained death was the topic of Byw Nawr’s event on the Welsh Government stand at last week’s National Eisteddfod held at Bodedern in Anglesey.
The Eisteddfod is a major event held entirely through the medium of Welsh in a different location in Wales every year and is
Dr Hywel Francis, Chair of Byw Nawr, has welcomed the Welsh Governent's announcement of an additonal £1 million in funding for end of life care in Wales. Dr Francis said "This is excellent news. Byw Nawr has always appreciated the Welsh Government’s commitment to