Dying Matters - What Can You Do?
"Every death affects people differently. We’re often too polite to ask for help, or don’t offer it for fear of saying the wrong thing. But a family or a community dealing with loss needs help."
This year, Dying Matters asked a simple question - "What Can You Do?" There were hundreds of events held all over the country and it was our most successful year yet, so much so, we are keeping the theme for 2018, but this time focussing more on one aspect which we have decided will be Community.
Talking and planning ahead for dying, death and bereavement is really important. But people also need practical help and support and there are plenty of things we can do to help each other.
So please think about what you can do to offer help and support to people who may be coping with dying, death and bereavement, whether it is friends, neighbours, a work colleague or someone in your wider community.
- make a will
- plan your funeral
- decide future care wishes
- consider organ donation
For your family
- encourage conversation
- discuss once you/they have made plans
- offer support
- share digital legacy details - for example, what are the passwords to your music and photo collections? These things will mean a lot to your friends and family
For your friends
- offer to help with shopping or household chores
- offer a lift if needed/able
- suggest meeting for a drink
- remember it’s ok to be honest and say “I don’t know what to say but I am here for you” when someone is bereaved
- Ask them what they would find helpful
For your community
- volunteer at a local hospice or charity
- offer to help with daily tasks, such as shopping, cooking or walking the dog
- start or get involved with support groups
We say more about this in our What Can You Do leaflet, which you can download here.
Each day of Awareness Week, we held Twitter Chats and released fact sheets on the below topics:
Monday - Pain Management - This is linked to our ComRes research on Pain Management, which you can find here
Tuesday - Talking to bereaved children
Wednesday - Digital Legacy
Thursday - Finance and benefits
Friday - How to have a good funeral
Guest Factsheet on Homelessness by Wendy Ann Webb
"You can do something to help someone cope with dying, death and bereavement"