Share Your Story
Hearing about others' experiences can be helpful when dealing with death and bereavement. Do you have a personal experience that you'd feel comfortable sharing with the campaign? If so, let us know...
My mum died ten years ago after suffering from pneumonia. She was admitted to hospital on a Thursday night (I'd spoken to her on Wednesday via dad as she was too poorly to speak to me). Dad told me he needed help: mum had fallen down the stairs. I told him to call the doctor, and she was admitted to hospital.
I lived a long way away and said I would come and see her Saturday, but she died at 4.20am on Saturday morning. My sister had been to visit the night before with dad and realised how poorly she was (she works in a hospital) and she had “no resus” on her chart, not discussed with family, so my dad did not realise how poorly she was. She had been ill before, but it would have been good to have been told; hey, I might even have taken the day off work on the Friday so that I could say goodbye to my Mum. But I didn't realise how poorly she was. She was only 72. Bless her.
The Dying Matters Coalition is led by the National Council for Palliative Care,
the umbrella charity for end of life care in England, Wales and Northern Ireland.
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