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Hearing about others' experiences can be helpful when dealing with death and bereavement. Do you have a personal experience that you'd feel comfortable sharing with the campaign? If so, let us know...
I have a very dear friend who has struggled for the last few years with cancer. We thought it was all over with and that she was in remission but, no, it's back.
I got the call today from her husband that she is tired of fighting this battle and it's time for me to say my goodbyes. I'm not ready to say goodbye just yet because we still have way too many more memories we have to make. I got to meet her kids and her grandkids but she won't be able to share with me in the birth of my first grandchild in a few months. Our grandchildren were supposed to grow up together so they could get to share in the special bond that we have after all these years.
I will try and remember all the good times we had together and I will always keep our memories close to my heart. It makes me mad as hell that God takes away the good people way too soon; why can't he take the rapists and murderers and the child molesters instead of you? But I got thinking God doesn't need rapists, child molesters and murderers in heaven. He needs angels like you to look after all of us and to do good where it's needed.
I am not ready to say goodbye but I'm not going to let my friend suffer either. So I'm going to put on my fake smile and tell her I love her and it's OK to go when she's ready. She's going through way more pain and hurt than I am. I will have family and friends who will be there to help ease my pain. So I'm going to be there until the end and hopefully help ease some of the pain my friend's husband and the rest of her family will be going through.
You're the most beautiful, the strongest, the most loving and gentle person I've ever known, and the best damn friend, too. I'm not going to say goodbye because we will see each other again In heaven. Please save me a good spot by you so we can be wild and crazy, just like the old days; a little 'Thelma and Louise' again, raising a bit of hell. Sorry God, we are small but mighty and we will make the best of our time there, too.
So I'm not going to say goodbye but I am going to say, 'See you soon, my dear friend. I love you and I will keep your memories forever close to my heart.'
The Dying Matters Coalition is led by the National Council for Palliative Care,
the umbrella charity for end of life care in England, Wales and Northern Ireland.
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