Share Your Story
Hearing about others' experiences can be helpful when dealing with death and bereavement. Do you have a personal experience that you'd feel comfortable sharing with the campaign? If so, let us know...
For this moment in time having just lost my best friend - yes my mother this is still very painful for me. In fact, I am trying to imagine my life with my best friend - my mother. What makes it really hard is the de-cluttering of her home and actually letting go. Some people think that de-cluttering has some therapeutic ideas as seeing all the photos and packing her clothes to give to charity is really hard. But it has to be done.
Dealing with grief so new as this only happened on the 1st of February 2010 at about 10-30am in hospital struggling with the fact she was in pain and knowing that my mum felt she was a burden to me. Before going into hospital - I wiped her bottom, washing her clothes when soiled and changed her dressings when in pain. This was indeed very hard for me as I could often see that my own mothers dignity was not there anymore. The love for her was so strong - I would have done this for another 10 plus years. Missing her creates some problems, but at the moment I am keeping myself so busy that coping is still difficult. Today I share my thoughts with you and even perfect strangers on my facebook pages. It is quite amazing how many people can help to give a person strength. I do hope that I have give you (the reader) strength too.
Time is a healer, but as long as your heart is full of love and your mind is full of wonderful memories of the love and loyalty of a child's love of a mother - things should really start to get better. The loss will always be there, but your mind will always love and remember.
The Dying Matters Coalition is led by the National Council for Palliative Care,
the umbrella charity for end of life care in England, Wales and Northern Ireland.
Freephone 08000 21 44 66