Share Your Story
Hearing about others' experiences can be helpful when dealing with death and bereavement. Do you have a personal experience that you'd feel comfortable sharing with the campaign? If so, let us know...
I was celebrating my 50th birthday and my husband and I had gone out to dinner and a film. When we got home, my daughter, Keri, said, "Your sisters all called to say 'Happy Birthday', but they didn't sound happy." I knew right away my mom had just died. She had been sick for six months with cancer and we all knew she wouldn't live much longer.
She and my dad were the most wonderful inspiration to all of us. They shared funny stories about when they were younger and she teased him about how he was going to be in trouble socially when she died becauser he could never remember anyone's name without her help. They enjoyed and truly appreciated all the cards and notes she received from friends, fellow parishoners and even people they hadn't met but who knew of them.
As I hung up the phone, obviously upset, my daughter yelled for me to come into the kitchen quickly. What now?! She pointed to the little houseplant that sat on the windowsill. I had just said that morning that I had to throw it out since Its leaves had withered and the little purple flowers had shrivelled up; it looked really pathetic. Now, the plant was totally revived, with beautiful new blooms and the leaves were shiny. Keri and I both stared at it dumbfounded. At that moment, I clearly heard Mom say, "Happy Birthday, dear."
My mom always called me to wish me a happy birthday and this day was no exception. Her name is Grace and she truly was a gift of grace to all who knew and loved her.
The Dying Matters Coalition is led by the National Council for Palliative Care,
the umbrella charity for end of life care in England, Wales and Northern Ireland.
Freephone 08000 21 44 66