Share Your Story
Hearing about others' experiences can be helpful when dealing with death and bereavement. Do you have a personal experience that you'd feel comfortable sharing with the campaign? If so, let us know...
One thing I have learnt about death is how it helped me discover about life, and how much it humbled me.
Like a tree out of season, all my leaves (layers of beliefs and comforts) are stripped away to a point I am left open, vulnerable and in a place where I am taught lessons of truth from life.
It showed me how in everyday life we get caught up with what we are doing, what we are gaining, what we are buying. We get caught up rushing, always striving for more and more. I started to think "Why? What is important to me?"
Loss taught me nothing lasts forever and to make the most of what I have in my life here and now. Life is a journey but we always focus on where we are going, missing the beauty in what is.
During these times of pain, one thing I was told by a wise mentor of mine was: "Tom, having guilt over past relationships with loved ones is destructive. We as people only do what our awareness knows at the time. If we knew then what we know now, we wouldn’t have done it. But we didn't know.”
Today I am aware that during loss and grief I became even more reflective about where I was heading and my values in life.
I came across some words in my journal that I want to share with you. Hopefully these words will resonate with your path and help trigger a breakthrough.
A poem I wrote on reflecting on life after loss
Where are you going?
Where have you been?
What did you learn?
What have you seen?
Are you on the right path, do you follow what you believe?
Are you lost right now, but have the humbleness to see?
Does fear have a hold or can you feel your way through?
Can you look into the mirror know you're being you?
For Life is unique, our body is our vessel
We all have a purpose to share that is special.
The Dying Matters Coalition is led by the National Council for Palliative Care,
the umbrella charity for end of life care in England, Wales and Northern Ireland.
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