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Hearing about others' experiences can be helpful when dealing with death and bereavement. Do you have a personal experience that you'd feel comfortable sharing with the campaign? If so, let us know...
He was a strong, hard working guy who worked till two months before cancer took his life.
Three weeks in the hospital, test after test.
First he was told he had a slow-acting cancer - not to worry. Then later that night he was told that there was nothing they could do for him and he had six to eight months to live. He asked to be able to go home instead of hospice care. He was granted that wish, with a nurse to check on him a couple of times a week.
Two weeks later he passed away in my arms after three long days of pain and struggles to breathe. Finally, in his last four hours, he was calm and sleeping his way to his death. The last words to me from him were, "I am dying and I love you."
As I lay with him moments before he passed, I told him that I was thankful he loved me and if he needed to go I understood and it would be okay. He then took his last breath. He died at home, where he wanted to be, on June 5 2012.
I miss him dearly but am glad he did not have to suffer long as he was not a guy to be laying around. But I am still numb and my heart is aching. Love like his is so hard to find.
Mel Armstrong of Rebel Heart Trucking will never be forgotten and is sadly missed. Sometimes we regret what was left undone. Time is supposed to heal and yet when you stop and take a break the loneliness sets in. Memories are carried forward.
The Dying Matters Coalition is led by the National Council for Palliative Care,
the umbrella charity for end of life care in England, Wales and Northern Ireland.
Freephone 08000 21 44 66