Dying Matters Staffordshire
Why ‘pushing up daisies’ isn’t helpful
Few of us are comfortable talking about dying and death. Look at the sheer number of phrases we use to avoid discussing it openly. We ‘kick the bucket’, ‘pop our clogs’, ‘peg it’, ‘pass away’; we seldom simply ‘die’.
It’s time to talk.
Making time to have honest conversations about your end of life wishes is important. And the best time to do it is while you are well.
Have these discussions now and you are more likely to get the care you want, have the best possible quality of life and might be able to spend your final time where and how you’d like.
On the other hand, if you don’t make your wishes known then the chances are they won’t be fulfilled. For those closest to you this can make a deeply troubling time even more stressful. They could be left worrying, or even arguing, about decisions they have to make on your behalf.
Sadly, a quarter of deaths are unexpected. Any one of us could go from being very well to the final stages of life in a very short time. So have that chat now; it always seems too early, until it’s too late.
What can I do?
Explore the Dying Matters website.
You’ll find a wealth of advice, leaflets, personal blogs etc. Here are a few suggestions:
Learn from other's experiences
Work with your community
People often speak more openly about dying when they are in an informal group. It’s an approach that’s proved successful across the country.
If you want to start your own discussion sessions as part of an existing community group, or even as a brand new venture, we are developing a couple of documents which will help:
Before you’re pushing up the daisies… (PDF a5 8pp booklet)
Slide pack to aid discussions (PDF or PowerPoint)
We’ll be posting links to both in a few days, so please pop back.
Staffordshire Health and Wellbeing Board November 2017