My father and my mother-in-law are both in their mid-80s and firmly believe there is no need to talk about death or dying. The other day my father said to me: "You get ill, your body shuts down, you die, you have a funeral. What else is there to talk about?" My mother-in-law, meanwhile, says death should never be discussed - she feels it's almost impolite - and uses euphemisms such as 'Going to sleep in God's garden'. Should I try to engage them on the subject and, with my father particularly, attempt to discuss what he wants/hopes to happen at the end of his life, or should I leave well alone and accept this is a generational thing which I have no right to attempt to change?