Benefits of a death plan

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mylastsongster
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Benefits of a death plan

I believe that a good way to break the taboo about death and dying is to encourage people coming to the end of their life to have a personal death plan, rather as mums-to-be have birth plans. To this end I created a holistic death plan in My Last Song which will encourage the patient, their loved ones, their medical staff and, if appropriate, a minister of religion, to discuss the end of life experience in a calm and rational way. The headings in the plan address physical, medical, emotional and spiritual issues so that the end of life can be as comfortable, comforting and reassuring as possible for the patient and their loved ones. Can others see the benefit of death plans?

Maitri
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Death Plan

I was only today thinking about birth plans / death plans. I had a birth plan for both my homebirths, neither of which went according to plan. My first born, 1979, was the first home birth in Portsmouth for can't remember if it was 20 years or more. My doctor wasn't available, the call doctor didn't want the responsibility, the ambulance men refused to move me, my daughter was finally born at home after 10 hours labour. I lived a long way from the hospital with my 2nd daughter's birth but the Doctor encouraged homebirth which was lucky given that despite a well thought out plan which included singing a Melanie song for the transition, my daughter was born in about 30 minutes (wouldn't have been time to get to hospital) and as she was blue and troubled good job we were not on the motorway. So yes it makes me smile to consider a death plan and just how not according to plan my death could be. I hope my death is like my second birth, far to fast to worry about whether I am at Point 1 or Point 9 it's all going according to someone's plan in any case. Seriously though I think it's a brilliant idea to have a death plan, but I also think it is important to consider whether 'spiritual' is a separate issue or one that permeates them all.

mylastsongster
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Death plan

Yes Maitri, it is an unfortunate and inevitable fact that many deaths, like births, will not go according to the plan. But the fact that a plan exists, that it encourages the subject to be addressed in detail, with considered rather than emotional led thought put into it is one of the main advantages of a death plan.
As for the spiritual issue, this may or may not be appropriate given the faith values of the person concerned. Most people in this country are not religious but do sometimes admit to a spiritual view which can be stronger the close to death one gets.
If it reassures a dying person to have their religious or spiritual side reawakened, then why not, although to some the 'insurance value' of discovering religion in later years is somewhat whimiscal.

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